Woman C: I knew he was older, I just didn't think that he was that much older.I think it was a thrill for him and gave him a chance to relive some of his adolescence. Woman A: The longest lasting of these relationships started when I was 18 and he was 40. However, we didn't start dating until I was 18 and he was 36. They split up around 2009 and I didn't hear from him for 18 months. Do you think your age was part of the attraction for him? Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him.
Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.
Woman A: I was working in retail at the time, and he was a customer. He looks younger than he is and is in very good shape.
Woman D: I'm now married to a man who is five years older than me so I suppose patterns would say I'm attracted to men older than me.
However, after the relationship with the significantly older man ended I vowed to only date close to my age again.