This is not saying that having a child isn’t worth it, but this is not about YOU having a child. Her body was changed by something that is of no benefit to you.6) You don’t want to be a father.She has demonstrated already that she doesn’t know how to effectively use contraception OR otherwise doesn’t make good choices because she made children with the wrong guy (most likely)*, and has demonstrated that she WANTS to be a mother as she kept the child.A woman without a child has much more freedom to be available for you.An unmarried mother should put her child(ren) first.Some guys may not admit publicly that they are highly unlikely to marry a woman with a child (not everyone is Joseph who married a pregnant Mary) even though they may have a child themselves. Now, before you chew my head off, I know that there are some guys who have married women who have children with another man - sometimes women with children not from just one man. The ego wants what it wants in whatever way it wants it. But this raises a fundamental issue in our society.Interestingly, women will marry a guy with as many children from as different women as Steve Hofmeyr. First of all, you have the issue of children growing up without fathers because they are unwilling to take responsibility for the children they were very actively involved in making. Men and women must stop thinking about temporary pleasure.
They will marry a guy with a child without much pause (yes, I am aware of the generalisation I am making. And we know how many of us can’t stand responsibility, even when we’ve planned for it. (To get an explanation on what "towning" is, please see this blog). It is about the father who still roams the streets. Many of us know what it’s like not to grow up with absent fathers.
It doesn’t matter what she says as far as “I don’t want another child” or “I can’t get pregnant” or “I’m using contraception” or “I wouldn’t ask anything of you.” Women lie or change their minds about this sort of thing all of time**, and even if she doesn’t, a court can make you be Daddy, financially anyway.7) You don’t want to be divorced.
Especially since women are more likely to file for divorce, marrying a divorced woman means you are more likely to end up divorced from her.
Some men are dating for sex, others are dating for marriage and sex, for example. Men, especially men with game, have a choice in women. Unless you’re a pedophile, it is extremely unlikely that a woman with a child has anything to offer that’s of benefit to you that a woman without a child lacks.
Conversely, here are the downsides of dating a single mother, in no particular order:1) The kid(s) will always come first for her, and that’s the way it should be.