You may have been deeply wronged, but “getting even” won’t heal any wounds. Carry your head high and spend your energy on people who deserve it. Many people feel lost after a breakup; not because they miss their ex, but because so many of their daily habits once revolved around someone else. Give yourself two rules: Don’t post anything about the breakup drama online, no matter how vague, and resist the urge to stalk your ex. One major change in your life can inspire even more change. You broke up last week, but you still “have thoughts” you want to process with the ex. “Defriending” or at least hiding statuses can help you avoid the constant temptation to check in and see if your ex is living a life more miserable — or worse, more awesome — than yours. If you have a tattoo-design epiphany in the days following heartache, wait a few months before acting on it. Hair grows back, but be warned: a bad bowl cut can hurt your already-bruised confidence. In-laws were members of the church he shot up, but were not attending that day 6. I am sure that his in-laws thought he was a good-for-nothing unemployed loser who they hated for being violent to their daughter. This looks like a case of prole loser rage (but with two wives, I wouldn’t call it beta-male rage), plus an ideology of hating religious people.The most important self-defense against psychopathic seducers consists of recognizing the initial warning signals so that you can escape the relationship early on, hopefully before you’re seriously harmed. Joseph Carver has put together a helpful and instructive list outlining the early symptoms of a dangerous relationship with a psychopath, or as he puts it quite aptly, with “a Loser.” As we’ve already seen in the previous account of Drew Peterson’s behavior, not all the signs of psychopathic seduction are obviously negative. It may be that his dark triad personality traits were the only thing these ladies found attractive about him.
It signals shallowness of emotions rather than strength of love.Don’t key his car, kidnap his cat, or destroy his stuff. Maybe you’d just rather be in a bad relationship than be in no relationship at all. Learn what you can from the relationship that just ended and move forward. Be thankful that the wrong relationship ended to free you up for the right one. And never, ever do something that could land you in legal trouble. There will be times when it’s important to communicate with an ex. Maybe you have to deal with a shared lease or pet custody. Instead of clinging to lost hope, find a wise friend who can help you walk through the reasons why you’re having a hard time letting go. Deep down, you know that you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone you had to beg to be with you. Take some time to refocus and pursue the things you’ve always loved to do. Carver begins by defining “the Loser”: “‘The Loser’ is a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship…The following list is an attempt to outline the characteristics of ‘The Loser’ and provide a manner in which women and men can identify potentially damaging relationships before they are themselves severely damaged emotionally or even physically.” () 1. “If he or she hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property even once, drop them,” Carver advises.