If an infant or child is exposed to high levels of fear and stress, like many abused or neglected children, than this can possibly predispose a child to a latter need for recreational drugs or produce an aggressive or self-destructive child.The skills necessary for achieving an intimate relationship are both the ability to be self-aware enough to be in touch with your own feelings and than be able to relate to the feelings and experiences of the intimate partner.- Stories of trauma and pain are part of my normal day as a therapist.I hear about hurt that starts in early childhood for some and continuing throughout life for others.Have you ever wondered how early childhood pain or trauma affect ones capacity to love?And to those who have been seriously hurt, is it possible to be so damaged emotionally that you actually can't love again?
Like Frank Sinatra advises in his classic song lyric, “Let's take it nice and easy,” and that lovers need to slow down and “take all the steps along the way”.
How many pieces of your heart can you lose and still retain the ability to deeply and fully love?
The answer is not as much as you think because the more break ups, the more scars and the more scars, the harder it is to open up next time.
As a therapist who specializes in relationships; I frequently witness how diminished people’s capacity to love is these days.
Everyone claims they want someone to love, yet so many mindlessly walk away from love.